Hello again,
I will start off by saying I'm sorry for not getting an update to you sooner. It's been quite a busy few weeks and want to thank everyone who has reached out to check on us and all of those who have donated to the GoFundMe and sent prayers our way, it has all truly helped us each moment. As the title states there's been a lot of things happening and it's so much I think it will be easier to just list out. As much as I'd love to give you a play by play and everything behind it there is just too much, I'd be writing for hours and you'd be reading for days! So here's the highlights:
THE UGLY:
The Tahoe made it over 2,300 miles to get us here but as we pulled into Baltimore it started making extreme noises and barely gave us a quick trip to Walmart and one last meal before surgery. We ha
d to drop it off to the mechanic the night before surgery and it was at the shop for over a week. Luckily they were very helpful and were able to get a new transfer case. As the mechanic stated, he had no idea how we made it into town as there were many destroyed belts, broken transfer case, loose chain, etc. Let's just say I prayed since the day we left ABQ that the Tahoe would get us safely to Baltimore, God did just that...nothing more, nothing less!
THE BAD:
After surgery Zackary did well with recovery the first couple of days. We were expected to stay in the hospital 2-3 nights, and usually only stay 2 nights. This time he took a rough turn on day 3 and we ended up having to go from almost going home (the HP House) to getting hooked back up to the IV's for fluids because he wasn't eating or drinking and slept almost all day, and was in lots of pain when he was awake. They tested and kept an eye out for infection but everything came back clear. He apparently just needed a couple extra days to recover enough to be on his own and we went back to the HP House on Sunday, 5 days after surgery. It was a long week but we are so lucky to have such great nurses and doctors that don't push anything and did nothing but keep his best interest in the fore front.
THE GOOD:
Ok, so the good is good-ish...I think. As we discussed in the last blog the surgery we were expecting to have was huge, lots of pain, hard recovery and long stay. We met with the doctor on Monday for pre-op and he reiterated all we knew. Dr. H was thankful we could stay here as long as needed but had extended our expected stay from 6-8 weeks to minimum 8-10 weeks. He also let us know the external fixator would be on for a total of 8-9 months, not the 4-6 they had explained over email. This is not the good news, but of course I don't know how to spare the back story, and it couldn't be in the bad category because it didn't actually happen...yeah, there's the good news coming.
Well, surgery day came and Dr. H came in as he always does but instead of marking up Zackary's leg and giving us the 'it's all going to be okay' speech he spent 30 minutes talking to Adam and I about how he had been thinking non stop about Zackary since Monday and just didn't feel good about doing this huge, painful surgery on Zackary. Always great to hear from the doctor...not! Well he let us know there was a different 2 stage surgery he did research on and felt comfortable recommending it for Zackary. And as we always ask the doctor, if it was your kid what would you do? And he said he'd do the new one. Well, he left us alone for about 30 minutes as we took time to explain things to Zackary and then he came back and talked with all of us for another 45 minutes going over pros and cons.
We settled on the new surgery and though the lengthening process cannot be done yet, he has to be done growing in his knee growth plate, we were able to do the hip reconstruction step. It's the same 'Z' process as expected and he ended up putting in 2 plates and 8 screws. This has to heal and when we come back for the lengthening process it will be exactly the same as 2016 with the internal rod and less pain, but a rather long recovery. We will also have to remove the bottom two screws in order for the rod to fit. So, though we will not have the extensive stay or extremely painful recovery as expected we have added another surgery within the next year which will include another long stay out here in Baltimore.
He is now recovering well in the HP house and we are both happy to have a little bit more space and a car to get away from Grub Hub, I actually cooked sloppy joes tonight! He has PT 3 times a week and a post op appointment on 7/25. We had multiple doctors tell us we could go home in anywhere from 3-6 weeks, so there is a chance we will be home way before we ever expected! He will have to complete healing and PT at home as expected. He has 'toe touch' permission and is getting short distances (to the bathroom, max) with a walker and has ventured out for Adam's bday dinner, which exhausted him but it was worth it. He will hopefully be on crutches by the time we get home and should be walking on his own within a few weeks of when school starts!
I told you there was a lot! For now, he and I are enjoying as much as possible out here. Lots of movies, board games and phone games from bed. Still quite a bit of napping and healing for him, and still work happening for me. He's still on strong pain meds but is weaning now. We're hoping to make it out to a movie this weekend, big goals!
As I stated before, thank you for all the well wishes, prayers, and donations. All of the support always blows my mind. You all are amazing. Thanks for keeping with me until the end of this. Maybe this will teach me to wait so long between posts!
Until Next Time,
Momma Miller